This blog has altered so much from what my original intentions were. I started it because people were curious about my 30 day elimination diet (I know you were all wondering how I did without booze for 30 days) and continued into my story of dealing with Hashimoto’s disease in the best way I can. I thought I could help someone else make positive, healthy changes in their life and feel better. I know what it’s like to feel like shit and not know why. I thought perhaps I could reach someone out there.
It’s changed again to my story of finding myself – a process that probably seems long and arduous to many of you. But it’s changed because I’ve come to understand that my health is intrinsically connected to the way my feelings and thoughts about myself. Dr. Wayne Dyer posted a great quote on Facebook today from Rumi, who happens to be one of my favorites. I’m paraphrasing here, but it basically says that if you want to change the world, start with yourself.
For those of you who know me personally, you know that I’m a crusader. I find things that I’m passionate about and I want to fight for them. I fight daily for my students’ lives as an educator for underserved urban high school students. I fight nearly daily for my second cause, food justice and literacy. Both of these causes are important to me – both I feel are necessary to a healthy culture, both literally and metaphorically.
But first, I must start with myself. And I guess that’s what I’m doing here, although I didn’t realize it until I read that quote. Thank you for reading, for supporting me on this journey.
You’ve probably noticed or figured out by now that I’m a self-help addict. I think this has a lot to do with wanting to continue the path I started on with my life coach a little over a year ago. I don’t want to stop learning about myself, and I don’t think I’m to the point where I can stop thinking about how I treat myself better and live the life I want to live. (And why would I want to?)
Anyway, I get sent a lot of stuff. I read a lot of stuff. For those of you who are actual real life Facebook friends with me you know I post a lot of it. Two things hit my inbox this morning and I’ve been thinking about them all day.
The first was an email from TUT-The Universe. I’m not sure how I found this thing, but “The Universe” emails you daily with little reminders. It’s awesome. It’s always a thought or a question that really makes you think. So, here’s mine for today:
“Some of the coolest dreams that ever came true, Carmen, weren’t dreams at all, but standards that simply weren’t compromised.
Oh yeah, we takin’ over…
Um, what? So you’re telling me that my standards were too low all along? Is that what’s going on?
And then there’s always a kicker after the little sign off:
“Carmen, always being your best, shining your brightest, and standing as tall as you can, pays far more dividends than one might ever imagine.”
I was having a tough time with this one today. WTF does that mean? At first, I was a little pissed (which generally means it stuck a chord).
It really made me think about what my “standards” are. Do I even know?
And then I get this from Your Kick Ass Life:
“So what is something that is bugging the crap out of you, that you can simply ask for help in changing?”
So, you’re telling me that all I had to do all along was ask for it?
Shine your brightest, keep up your standards for yourself and then just ask for what I want to change?
Jesus, is it that simple?
And then I proceeded to freak out.
See, this is why I need self-help.
Here’s the thing. I honestly believe that if I do these things, I will get what I want out of life. This is an incredibly powerful thought. It’s like a genie in a bottle. It’s incredibly empowering, and incredibly fucking scary.
There’s no alternative though. I have to do it. Because if I don’t, I’ll always wonder. So I’m going to take my chances, and jump. I’m all in.